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« Thread started on: Aug 6th, 2013, 4:45pm »

Hey guys, this is my first time on the site, or any site like this. I'm at a bit of a block in my life right now, but I'd like to give a bit of a back story as to what I've done up until now.

I'm 22 years old and I've been moving back and forth between Arkansas and California for a few different reasons. 1) Arkansas is where my family is at and they support me when I need it, and encourage me when I'm down. And of course I love them to death. 2) It is much cheaper in Arkansas than California...MUCH cheaper, but 3) California is my home, and when I am here I feel like I can get more done with my life than sitting in the sticks spending the day on online games.

I've had numerous jobs and went to two different community colleges once for general education and again for starting a Business Administration major. Both in Cali for one semester, but couldn't afford to continue either.

My most recent job in Arkansas (Kinda) was as a Deckhand towing freight up and down the Ohio River. I would spend a month on the boat, and a month off. The job became a bit stressful and I had a panic attack while on the vessel. I ended up quitting when it was time to get back on the route again.

This job paid very well, and I was hoping to use the saved money that I had to continue living in Arkansas while I looked for another job. I searched for two months...EVERYDAY.. I handed out at least 20 resume's to those who didn't take applications and filled out applications while I could, including my time at home on the computer.
It didn't turn out well, and I kind of seen it coming. My funds were running low and my sister offered me a job back in Cali to watch her kids for the summer as she and her husband have work. I accepted and at the beginning of this summer I happily moved back to Cali.

This is where my friends are, some of them are like family for many reasons which go back to middle school, but I won't get into that. I've spent the summer watching my sisters kids for housing and 50-60 dollars at the end of the week. It's almost time to move out and start here in Cali, I have some money saved up but I doubt it to be enough to get an a place of my own (Even just renting a single room) I've looked around again the prices are overwhelming just like they were when I couldn't afford living on my own during college.

Since I am an out of state resident now I can't return to college with financial aid until next year, since the price per unit is 5 times more.

I may have a friend or two that could let me stay with them, maybe ask to extend my time at my sisters if I land a job until I can afford my own place. But as an absolute last resort I would ask my grandmother for some funding if I do get a job, so that I can afford that first months rend/deposit. I've borrowed $300 from her before, and made sure to repay her as quickly as possible. Which was my first paycheck.

So these are my current standings. The way I see it I have three things that could happen. 1) I get a job and get back on my feet here in Cali. 2) I go back to Arkansas and start this endless cycle again 3) I submit myself to the fact Hoboism will be my future career.

I pretty much feel like a child whining right now, but I'm kind just looking for direction and some wisdom. And if you've made it this far, I salute you as I don't really think of myself as even a decent user of wording and English in general (It is my first language)

So! What do you think? Where should I go? What should I do? I'm tired of bouncing around the country having my hopes shut down once I'm on track.

-Thanks for reading. smiley
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« Reply #1 on: Feb 10th, 2014, 3:31pm »

Alright, first off, I congratulate you for making it this far. By that I mean you have had a lot of struggles and are still keeping your head above water. Way to go.
Know that you are not the only one with this problem. Right now, it is a huge problem all over America. There are some flaws in your logic though.
You have limited yourself to Arkansas and California. And limited yourself even further by sticking to the areas where your friends and family are. You limited your job possibilities incredibly. I am not sure what kind of job you are looking for. You weren't very specific.
There are jobs out there. The problem is, they may not be the ones you want. I have a good friend who is going to a division one college (some financial assistance), paying for an apartment and everything else he needs. He works in a warehouse (more or less) 35 hours (average) a week getting $8.50 an hour.
Here is the truth. You won't get everything you want. You will have to sacrifice some things. My friend moved from his home in Colorado to Northern Kentucky because school and cost of living was cheaper. I am not telling you to move to Northern Kentucky. I am saying you may have to find your own "Northern Kentucky". You can make new friends and keep in touch with your family. When you get settled and get a bit of money, you can always take a long weekend vacation to visit them.
Do some research. Research jobs and cost of living in places between Arkansas and California. You could find somewhere great a few hours away or a state or two away. You might be surprised what you find.

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