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question Conflict with wife, please advise..
« Thread started on: May 11th, 2014, 10:46pm »

Hi

my wife has an opinion that we should not be sharing any travel/shopping/home tips (that we got after spending time and researching on it) with our friends, neighbors and anyone really.
Some e.g could be deals for flights/hotels going on, coupons for shopping, etc.

me and her have had fights about this, because i tend to believe in sharing what we know to help our friends. Few times i shared a few tips with them and then had to face the heat with her later on about it

i am confused if i am wrong or she is wrong, as she really feels strongly about not sharing stuff since we worked hard, spent our time and research to find them out.

what do you guys think ? please advise!
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« Reply #1 on: Dec 9th, 2015, 9:43pm »

Hello there,

People who have worked hard for EVERYTHING or MANY things in their life with no help from anyone typically behave like this.

Is your wife someone who has done a lot on her own? Meaning that she has learned, overcome, and achieved on her own with little to no help?

Perhaps because you & her didn't have any help from anyone and had to figure things out on your own for most of your life, then she thinks that people should also do their own research etc.

Perhaps if she never had a it easy, so she may have a hard time making life easy for others, because she may think "well no one helped me.. I/we had to learn/earn/research this all on our own..so others should do the same instead of us just giving them the answer"

If I am wrong and your wife hasn't struggled, or didn't have a hard life, then perhaps she didn't have a loving family? A giving family? Only child? Try to show her the benefits of helping others. Explain to her that helping people is a part of being human...

If she has had a rough life and didn't have any handouts, then she will naturally feel like others should also work hard for information etc, so perhaps in order to have peace, instead of telling your friends the information, just give them tips on how to research. That way they will research on their own.

Why do you want to give away the tips/information?

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« Reply #2 on: Dec 10th, 2015, 4:44pm »

I think the only relevant question is whether this is worth stressing a marriage over, and I think the answer to that is no.
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« Reply #3 on: Dec 10th, 2015, 4:54pm »

I think the only relevant question is whether this is worth stressing a marriage over, and I think the answer to that is no.
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