How do I get my roommate's girlfriend to leave??
« Thread started on: May 29th, 2014, 9:19pm »
Sorry this is long but please read! I live in a large house with several roommates and my boyfriend. It has always been a struggle to find good people who we can get along with and who can pay they're portion of the bills. We finally got a good set of people when one of my roommates got a last minute out-of-town internship for the summer. He has agreed to pay his portion of the rent to secure his room but he asked if his girlfriend could stay at the house. The girlfriend just graduated from college and has decided she wants to move to this city instead of going back home. This would be fine if she wasn't so unbearably irritating! She has a job now but hasn't started looking for an apartment. We feel like our hands are tied because our roommate is still paying his share and how would the "We hate your girlfriend" conservation be received?
To elaborate on what is so irking about the girlfriend: She is nice but incredibly awkward. She is extremely sheltered and just graduated from private christian college. But there's more to it than her being less worldly than the rest of us. In conservation I feel like she doesn't understand what is being said most of time and uses word/phrases out of context. She'll agree with an opinion that directly contradicts something she just said. She "parrots" exact phrases or opinions we said in recent conservation. I feel weird saying this but I think she might have some sort of mental disability. She has no connections in this town so she sits at the house all day. This would be fine if she didn't corner me as soon as I go into a common area in the house. She tries to pitch in around the house (loading the dish-washer etc.) but does things really really wrong. I tried to talk to her about it but she gets weirdly apologetic like she feels threatened. I've been hiding in my room for a week just to avoid her. I feel like a terrible person because she isn't mean or destructive. On the other hand I want to be comfortable in my own house I pay for. How can I handle this tactfully?
Re: How do I get my roommate's girlfriend to leave
« Reply #1 on: Oct 27th, 2015, 06:49am »
It does sound like she is on the autistic spectrum. It's OK and it's normal to feel irritated by people with mental challenges, so don't feel bad about that! What counts is how you handle it. Remember they are human and deserving of respect. They are also a part of life, so think of this as a way to build your skills in interacting with them.
I don't have any advice on how to deal with roommates.. however, people on the autistic spectrum are not always the easiest to deal with, so you can at least focus on building tolerance and skills until you do figure out what to do. Good luck!